15 October 2010
There are moments when it all seems just as real, where the memories of labouring that night and knowing that it was the end just overwhelm me. There are also so many times when I briefly forget, and feel fresh guilt for the forgetting. Grief is a complex thing, and no two people are quite alike, no two losses equivalent to the people experiencing them.
If you know someone who is grieving right now, I direct you to this wonderful resource (thankyou to the person who pointed me towards it today). How to Help your Grieving Friend
If you, too, have personal experience of losing a child - either your own or someone close to you - I am sending you so much love as I type this. I know who some of you are, and I promise you, as I light our candles I had you specifically in mind. The list of names in my heart is too long to begin to type out.
And lastly, if you are up to the very raw reading, Lael's story especially as requested by one friend who has asked for the links (*warning - graphic*). Please, if you too are feeling fresh pain tonight, don't take mine away with you too, but feel free to share your story here or anywhere. There is a time to grieve, and a time to be comforted, and it's OK to cycle wildly between the two sometimes. (hugs)
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