12 August 2014

Depression (for people who aren't actually depressed)

Just a couple of resources, links, articles, and ideas. I'm having a difficult time explaining that I'm not actually sad (or not always) and that platitudes aren't the same as support (or help) and that it's the simple little things that are so often eluding me in the grey fog. My words aren't sufficient, right now, I just end up sounding ungrateful or rude. Ack. Anyhow, I shall bring some more useful words to your attention:

"...trying to use willpower to overcome the apathetic sort of sadness that accompanies depression is like a person with no arms trying to punch themselves until their hands grow back.  A fundamental component of the plan is missing and it isn't going to work."

And that's the most frustrating thing about depression. It isn't always something you can fight back against with hope. It isn't even something — it's nothing. And you can't combat nothing. You can't fill it up. You can't cover it. It's just there, pulling the meaning out of everything. That being the case, all the hopeful, proactive solutions start to sound completely insane in contrast to the scope of the problem.

It would be like having a bunch of dead fish, but no one around you will acknowledge that the fish are dead. Instead, they offer to help you look for the fish or try to help you figure out why they disappeared. "




See, I even lack the energy to look around and see if there are any better links than the above, or seamlessly integrate them with my post. Just, yeah, all of that. Thanks for hanging in there with me.


  1. So many people suffer from depression, it seems unlikely you will find any readers not willing to hang in with you. I know the dreariness of it so well. Val xxx

  2. " it's just there pulling the meaning out of everything" yes it is just like that. Wish there was something a little more real I could do than just offer words. But I do understand the struggle and send hugs across the ether. Xx


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