tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post3642214220549732983..comments2023-05-24T15:17:41.155+01:00Comments on Carried Family: Backsliding and Ditheringarwen_tiwhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13190775746566710752noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-29977824700755426382012-03-26T21:23:46.100+01:002012-03-26T21:23:46.100+01:00I wanted to comment but actually everything that I...I wanted to comment but actually everything that I wanted to say has already been said by some wonderful mamas. You know what Sarah, I have 5..yes 5 children aged from nearly 25 to 5 and I am still learning to let go of being the perfect (perfect for me) mother.<br />loads of love xxsuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00733389051513022820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-67163005696756799412012-03-22T14:31:34.286+00:002012-03-22T14:31:34.286+00:00I knew you lot would resonate with this ramble! I...I knew you lot would resonate with this ramble! I find it so easy to cut other mamas some slack and say, "do what works, you're doing fine" and much harder to give myself the same love...<br /><br />Thankyou for sharing my struggles and doubts, and encouraging me in loving my babies in every way I can. (hugs)arwen_tiwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13190775746566710752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-4569929996677581902012-03-21T20:39:42.467+00:002012-03-21T20:39:42.467+00:00Oh I can so so relate to this post Sarah! And my f...Oh I can so so relate to this post Sarah! And my friends would probably testify to the fact that it's so me! Lol. It really is not just you. I like to think of it as having my ideals but being flexible to real life events. Apart from the things I'm just not sure on... Then I just call it dithering! Lol. I too have a waldorf heart and RU head!<br />A good friend of mine once said to me (of herself) "I am a woman and I am Muslim, anything else could change. After all there is no absolute reality. No one right way to live." I decided then not to pigeon hole myself, even though I hold strong beliefs. :)Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01522140630879522066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-10036659926991646572012-03-21T16:58:16.709+00:002012-03-21T16:58:16.709+00:00Oh Sarah, I am with you on the nappy free angst :(...Oh Sarah, I am with you on the nappy free angst :( Just posted about it rather incoherently actually! You are doing an amazing job, four Is tough in lots of ways, feel like I am just reaching the top of some huge mountain as Jahara nears her first birthday....love to you all x x xGeorginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04422199292563510778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-14959857779956642592012-03-21T11:26:40.191+00:002012-03-21T11:26:40.191+00:00It's a minefield isn't it. I'm never ...It's a minefield isn't it. I'm never quite sure if I'm being the adult when I make a decision, or whether it's just a conditioned response of how I was raised.<br /><br />Am I being authentic to my beliefs, is something I ask myself all the time. I also struggle massively with what I'm prepared to put up with and the principles behind radical unschooling - do I allow Rye to eat sweets and sugar laden things unrestricted and trust him to regulate himself, or do I restrict when I believe the stuff is poison to our bodies and is actually addictive??? (I restrict as I feel strongly about it; but explain to Rye why I sometimes make decisions for him)<br /><br />Such a minefield.Joxy34https://www.blogger.com/profile/08395070160887950878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-5519766388461832802012-03-21T11:08:16.955+00:002012-03-21T11:08:16.955+00:00Oh, it's so hard isn't it! I find myself s...Oh, it's so hard isn't it! I find myself saying the same thing to Jude - "I'm just coming baby, I'm sorry....", and I only have two! I find I've left her chilling out on the sofa for ages because she will just chill out, and then resenting Grace for *never* chilling out and letting me lavish some attention on Jude.... I swear AP is for only children.... :) This baby definitely doesn't know what the "in-arms" phase is all about - not helped by the fact that she hates to be awake in a sling :(<br /><br />Oh, we just do the best we can, don't we - and hopefully forgive ourselves when we fail :(<br /><br />AngieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-21180608594968556682012-03-21T10:03:25.237+00:002012-03-21T10:03:25.237+00:00Love and gratitude for the comments, all of you. ...Love and gratitude for the comments, all of you. And (group hug) for the other self-doubting mamas who are wrestling with real life and ideals. xxxarwen_tiwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13190775746566710752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-37326626227588277712012-03-21T07:50:32.371+00:002012-03-21T07:50:32.371+00:00wow...I agree with all that you have said....excep...wow...I agree with all that you have said....except the kosher part which I have never looked into but would prefer my family to be vegetarian so possibly for similar reasons i.e. toxins, health and cleanliness.My dream is a cabin in the woods or a cave away from the toxic, plastic society we all accept so easily. I often request wooden toys for the children and usually end up with a mountain of plastic...so we tend to buy the wooden ones which the children love, and they equally love the 'others' that people buy them. Maybe compromise is the key , for the sake of sanity. I too often analyse things to whithin an inch of their lives, yet all it seems to do is bother me and make me feel inadequate. From what I have seen on here, you do an amazing job and I feel I could learn a lot so please don't be disheartened. You just have to keep swimming and follow your heart :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04776429388293290274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-50802427048568973202012-03-21T07:44:42.602+00:002012-03-21T07:44:42.602+00:00I expect you know you are being far too hard on yo...I expect you know you are being far too hard on yourself lol. And ALL parents question and change their choices. I think sometimes we see, or read about something which makes sense to us (and is apparently working for other families), and we think, yes, I want to be that kind of parent/person. The reality is of course your home and family and finances are different from mine and mine is different from theirs. I tend to have the all or nothing attitude, unintentionally though, and maybe you do too. I feel I have failed if I dont meet my own expectations even once. Yesterday I was pondering on the 'they don't miss what they have never had' theory. In this instance I was thinking of sugar, but it applies to lots of areas of parenting. I concluded that in these days of abundance for many families (not wealth, but 'things'), and media hitting us from all sides, I don't think that stands necessarily true. It is difficult to eliminate things from your home which other people would consider 'normal'. What a rambler I am lol. I am trying to make you feel better honest. Happy healthy children are after all, the most important thing anyway.<br />V<br />xxxValeriehttp://vlbeattie.typepad.com/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-7562911272275176712012-03-20T22:33:53.560+00:002012-03-20T22:33:53.560+00:00Thank you btw. xThank you btw. xjoc4jesushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06540979798063576546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-1815866721462256632012-03-20T22:33:34.569+00:002012-03-20T22:33:34.569+00:00You are so real Sarah. I appreciate your realness...You are so real Sarah. I appreciate your realness. You make me feel ok. :-)joc4jesushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06540979798063576546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-58848894651097007272012-03-20T21:25:47.848+00:002012-03-20T21:25:47.848+00:00You are doing a fantastic job. Look at it this wa...You are doing a fantastic job. Look at it this way - if someone came up to you and said that their baby/child was not doing what "the book" (possibly by a certain Ms Ford!), says, what would you say? That's right - all children are individuals. All people are individuals. What is right at one moment in time for one person might be completely wrong for someone else. Talia wears nappies because she wants to wear clothes. So what. She is happy, wanted and loved, and you are responding to her needs. When you strip AP right down to the basics, it's about loving and respect a child as an individual - which you do.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02712587828340567397noreply@blogger.com