tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post3443143456081405371..comments2023-05-24T15:17:41.155+01:00Comments on Carried Family: On grief and joy (more rambling)arwen_tiwhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13190775746566710752noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-14771482416333850422009-01-23T19:05:00.000+00:002009-01-23T19:05:00.000+00:00hearing you darling and loving you and all your be...hearing you darling and loving you and all your beautiful family<BR/>xnocton4https://www.blogger.com/profile/05201679860305222357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-86433685807729419782009-01-18T21:11:00.000+00:002009-01-18T21:11:00.000+00:00Now you're making me all teary eyed, the way you w...Now you're making me all teary eyed, the way you write about *all* of your children is so beautifulAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-48004186436129653732009-01-18T13:14:00.000+00:002009-01-18T13:14:00.000+00:00I share your thoughts on not knowing how many chil...I share your thoughts on not knowing how many children to say. I never say 'when I was pregnant with my first' or anything like that as I feel it is a betrayal of the memory of the 3 children I lost before they were born, but on the other hand, I don't necessarily want to explain my obstetric history to any random stranger. So I'm just very careful with my phrasing, and remember inside myself the dates which would have been their birthdays.<BR/>being pregnant always seems to bring up thoughts of death for me as well - I don't think it's necessarily because we've experienced losses, I think it is just a time when we are very close to the cycle of life and deatha nd very aware of both.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01354606225242312518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4796229784379212331.post-60181655182283453372009-01-17T22:11:00.000+00:002009-01-17T22:11:00.000+00:00**hugs**I don't think your heart is being traitoro...**hugs**<BR/>I don't think your heart is being traitorous, I think its merely expressing your desire to be able to acknowledge the babies that were taken from you far too soon, yet knowing to do so would make people very uncomfortable because these days we don't know how to respond to death and loss and so its hidden away and sanitised.<BR/><BR/>And no grief never goes away totally, it just becomes muted so we can function. Interestingly, I have no idea when the anniversaries are for my dad, mum and brother; I have a vague idea of the years but that's it; some sanity protecting mechanism I suppose.<BR/><BR/>I think the gift your passed children give you is the ability to truly feel the blessings you do have and a deeper appreciation for Jenna, Morgan and the little one on the way.<BR/><BR/>Joxy.Joxy34https://www.blogger.com/profile/08395070160887950878noreply@blogger.com